As parents, we often pour our energy into family, children, work, and countless daily tasks. But amidst all this chaos, have you stopped for a moment to think about yourself? About your self-confidence? Your self-worth?

We all know how important it is to strengthen our children’s sense of confidence and worth. We want them to believe in themselves, know who they are, and understand their value. But here’s the big lesson: to teach them this, we must start with ourselves. When our foundation is stable and strong, we become role models and sources of inspiration for them.

In one of our recent community meetings, one of the members shared that he struggles with low self-worth and that it affects his life in significant ways. He feels that to deserve love or kindness from others, he must constantly prove himself and always be the best. He’s hard on himself and finds no rest or comfort—neither within himself nor in his life. He wanted to know how he could strengthen his self-worth. As he spoke, confident and open, I saw an opportunity to discuss an important yet often overlooked topic.

In this insight, I’ll discuss the difference between self-confidence and self-worth, and how we, as parents, can strengthen both—within ourselves and our children.

The Difference Between Self-Confidence and Self-Worth

When I think about this difference, I remember a story about one of my clients, Noa. She’s a talented graphic designer with strong professional confidence. She knows she can deliver excellent results. Yet despite her success, Noa has always struggled in personal relationships.

Self-confidence relates to our belief in our abilities. It can vary across areas of life. For instance, Noa feels confident at work but less so in romantic relationships.

Self-worth runs deeper. It’s the belief that we are deserving of love and abundance—regardless of our achievements. Despite her professional success, Noa always felt unworthy of love. She believed she had to constantly prove herself to earn others’ kindness. I remember her saying things like, “Who would want to live with someone like me? I feel lonely, but that’s what I deserve.”

Noa’s story shows how similar yet distinct these concepts are. Strengthening confidence is often easier—it comes from practice and achievement. But building self-worth is a deeper, more complex journey.

Ultimately, our shared journey is to separate our achievements from our inner value. To understand that we are worthy of love and abundance not because of what we do, but because of who we are. That journey may be long and challenging, but it is vital for our mental and emotional well-being.

Returning to the community member’s story, I explained that perhaps over the years he built a façade of confidence—expressed through rigidity, stubbornness, or ego—to protect a fragile inner self. But there’s always a way forward to raise self-worth and live a healthier, more balanced life.

How to Increase Self-Worth

Raising self-worth is a powerful process that affects every part of life. One of the most effective ways to do so is through connection, listening, and acceptance—toward yourself. Imagine someone who is connected to themselves, listens inwardly, and accepts who they are. Their life is peaceful, calm, and full of love and compassion.

A person connected to themselves lives with a high sense of self-worth. They know they deserve respect, kindness, and love. This kind of inner peace can only develop through daily self-reflection and conscious improvement—by using methods such as CCH or any other technique that helps you grow.

As with any personal development, consistency is key. Think of an athlete chasing excellence—training once a month won’t bring results. The same applies to developing self-worth: it’s built through steady and continuous practice, ideally within a supportive community.

Another powerful way to raise self-worth is through giving. Give generously, with an open heart, without expecting anything in return. The more a person gives of their talents and time, the more they feel needed, loved, and connected to the world. Those feelings naturally nurture self-love and a deep sense of value.

Strengthening Our Children’s Confidence and Self-Worth

When it comes to children, their sense of self-worth begins at home. When they witness a loving relationship between their parents, they internalize that they too are worthy of love and acceptance. Involving them regularly in household tasks builds a sense of responsibility, belonging, and contribution. Encouraging them to help others—whether it’s preparing meals, assisting neighbors, or volunteering—teaches them they can make an impact and are valued members of their community.

Developing self-confidence in children requires a balanced approach of challenge and support. Setting high expectations while believing in their abilities fosters growth. Avoid extremes—being overly strict can harm the relationship, while giving in too easily can lead to mediocrity. Find the balance: challenge them, support them, and believe in them.

Each child is unique, so avoid comparisons. Focus on their personal growth and progress. This will help them feel at ease with themselves, proud of who they are, and ultimately strengthen both their self-confidence and self-worth.

With warmth,
Hannah ❤️