As a mother, you carry within you not only your own story. You carry desires, cravings, frustrations, loneliness, fears, past memories, and a wounded child.

The body of a mother remembers. Not only what happened to her in her lifetime, but also what happened to her mother—and sometimes even to her grandmother.

There are memories that are not expressed in words—they live in a person’s sensations: fear, tension, shame, insecurity, or on the other hand—self-confidence or immense survival strength.

Mothers carry emotional memories from the womb in which they themselves grew: how their mother felt, how safe she was, how loved she felt.

They carry patterns that quietly pass through families: how one deals with pain, whether it’s okay to ask for help, whether it’s allowed to be weak or if one must always be strong.

They carry stories that weren’t always spoken aloud: traumas, loss, wars, immigration, and complicated family relationships.

Many mothers feel they react “too much” or “too little” in certain situations and don’t always understand why.

Sometimes it’s not only their experience as adult women. It’s a deeper layer of physical and emotional memory that begins in the womb.

I remember years ago, one of my patients came to me because she had problems in her relationship with her partner. In the first session, I saw that she carried a deep sense of shame, and to my surprise, this came from her mother’s experience at the time my patient was conceived in the womb. At first, it sounded unbelievable: Could it be that the source of her relationship issues began when her parents conceived her? And could it be that I saw that?

Yes, and I shared this with her. I asked her to check with her mother what her parents’ relationship was like at the time her mother conceived her.

She called her mother, shared about the shame she was feeling and conception, and her mother replied: "Your father and I were separated. He wanted us to get back together and insisted, so I let him into our home. He entered, raped me, and I became pregnant with you. Afterward, we divorced."

The deep shame that the mother felt was imprinted as a memory in the fetus, in the girl, and in the woman she grew to be—and no matter where she went or what she did, the feeling of shame, carried since the moment of her conception, accompanied her throughout her life.

When you carry other people’s stories within you, you react, make decisions, and act according to those stories—and in doing so, you live in the prison of the past. This prison limits you, hypnotizing you to follow only the path written in advance.

But because mothers also carry within them desires, dreams, loves, beliefs, passions, and great joy—it is important for me to help you strengthen those positive things, because they too are passed on.

The question you need to ask yourself is: What do you want to pass on to your children? What do you want to pass on to your grandchildren?

What will be passed to the next generation also depends on you—and on your choices now. You are not only a bearer of stories—you are also the one who decides how they will continue.

So, what can you do to give the next generation a clean opportunity?

• Pause for a moment and listen inwardly—notice what feels heavy, what repeats itself again and again in your life. That’s the old memory waiting to be released.
• Release what doesn’t belong to you—through deep breathing, writing, therapy, or a cleansing process like the one I lead named “Restart.” Allow your heart and body to part with pains, fears, and old patterns.
• Reconnect to yourself—return to your dreams, your moments of joy, your passions—and take small steps to fulfill them.
• Conscious choice—every day, ask yourself: “What do I want to pass to my children or grandchildren today? Love? Security? Freedom?” and act accordingly.

What will be passed to the next generation also depends on you. You can continue the old cycle—or start anew. Through inner cleansing, release, and reconnection to yourself, you give your children a pure opportunity: a life free of old burdens, filled with light, love, and freedom.

Your cleansing is not only for you—it is a gift for generations to come.

❤️ Hannah